tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6437083501807331624.post3568890087410499583..comments2024-03-25T01:33:15.969-07:00Comments on Move over Godzilla: Dating in Japan: DifferencesMs.Godzillahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14528004139439104356noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6437083501807331624.post-80006361466640349572013-02-17T04:08:23.326-08:002013-02-17T04:08:23.326-08:00I agree with SarahF, expecting and accepting cultu...I agree with SarahF, expecting and accepting cultural differences can be a good thing - I know I'm more likely to explain my reasoning to U than I did to exes, to make allowances rather than expect certain things. But, I do think our differences are more from personality than culture per se...SomedaysSarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07485017469544064676noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6437083501807331624.post-85698451265291984402013-02-08T12:48:48.198-08:002013-02-08T12:48:48.198-08:00Are these differences culturally based? Is it pers...<i>Are these differences culturally based? Is it personality? Both? Neither? </i><br /><br />Being in an interracial and international relationship, I struggled with the answer to these questions for a long time. Is it my SO's nationality? His family? His ethnicity? The town that he grew up in? Sometimes I still can't figure it out. And sometimes surprising things come up: ways in which we do and think the same things. <br /><br />For instance, it seems to be rather common where I live for men to say "That's really a man thing" or "That's a woman thing" but I don't think that would go over so well in other places that I've lived. <br /><br />Very, very curious. Sonna~https://www.blogger.com/profile/06490718985020484562noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6437083501807331624.post-10967289215521246212013-02-07T01:26:25.095-08:002013-02-07T01:26:25.095-08:00I agree with Sarahf to an extent - like when a fri...I agree with Sarahf to an extent - like when a friend complained that a guy didn't call her back and she said, "maybe it's because he's Japanese and he's shy". I hesitated to tell her, "if someone really likes you, they will call back, no matter how nervous they feel!" But sometimes it's easy to forget there are cultural differences. I used to get mad over perceived slights or misunderstandings, then I realised that you can't jump to the same conclusions you might if you shared the same culture. Now, before I get needlessly offended, I stop and ask my husband, "wait, did you mean xyz?" and a lot of the time, he'll say, "no, that's not what I meant at all!" it's either a difference in language nuance or culture. The plus side is you don't take each other for granted. On the downside, having grown up with different pop culture references, we sometimes don't 'get' stuff straight away (like, he's never heard of The Brady Bunch or The Simpsons and listened to completely different music growing up). Now, we're building our own store of shared experiences and references though, which is cool!Meibutsuhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03880063999432978745noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6437083501807331624.post-63869277726551049352013-02-07T00:14:07.317-08:002013-02-07T00:14:07.317-08:00I think you hit differences even if you are from t...I think you hit differences even if you are from the same culture. At least in an international relationship, you have a reason for the differences, and you are expecting them, I suppose.Sarahfhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17570295122864601160noreply@blogger.com