Also, I know that my direct managers all have or want children. It is a fact that many of those who have kids can get very defensive if someone mentions that they don't want them, and last thing I want to do is antagonize the people I work so closely with.
Keeping this balance can be very difficult.
I was at a work dinner, when one of our clients asked: 'What will you do about your vegetarianism when you have kids?'.
I froze. My usual 'uuuhm, nah' is not going to cut it, especially since the gentleman in question is a father. I did my best with 'ohh, I've never thought of it, どうでしょうね' but for some reason they got stuck on it, with me getting progressively uncomfortable.
Even in my relatively young area of tech, the female = mother monolith is alive and well.
How does one deal with this? I don't want to lie, but the truth is a maaaajor conversation stopper!